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Cross examination is a delicate act and art that requires mastery of the intricacies therein and understanding of the subtle nuances of human nature. The following tips are relevant.  The first rule of cross examination is not to examine crossly. Abuse is not an argument, no matter who gives it. It is dog's eloquence to  abuse and stoop low to injure another's personality. Get the defendant to commit to absolute statements; then confront him with the damaging letter or evidence. Proceed with as much easiness as if the value of a loss in cross examination were less than a kobo. Establish other possibilities that are open even when the evidence is or appears to be  substantially true. Cross examination can be directed to show that witness was occupied with circumstances surrounding the fact rather than the fact itself. This can be skewed to show that the witness was completely inattentive when the incident happened.

  The HIV syndrome stands for having insufficient vision. What do you see concerning yourself? Your finances, your health, your career? Your future? Your marriage? etc. Make sure that you are seeing yourself not as you are but as God wants you to be. Make sure you are imagining the best about yourself because your imagination is the workshop of God upon which engravings of the future are carved. It is what you see that you are empowered to seize. I will quickly tell the story of two people who visited a poor village. The village was characterized by pervasive poverty. One of the two persons focused on the poverty and said: "I have never seen this large number of poor people gathered in one place". Thereafter he shook his head and left. The other man was not looking at the poverty in the village. Guess what? He was looking at their feet and the fact that the people had no shoes. Instead of leaving like the first man, the second man, having seen a business opportunity, left the

  Always remember that the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. An Appeal that everyone likes is an appeal to nobler motives for everyone as a high regard for themselves and like to be fine and unselfish in their own estimation. This is why you must paint other people in a good light. Another key to influence is to dramatize your ideas; the movies does it, the TV does it, why don't you do it, - Dramatize your ideas, it works in business and home life as well and this explains why a lover goes down on his knees to propose to his sweetheart. Also, when nothing else works, throw down a challenge. Charles Schwab: The way to get things done is to stimulate competition. I do not mean in a sordid, money getting way but in the desire to excel. "All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward  sometimes to death but always to victory..." Motto of the King's guard in ancient Greece.

Dealing with people and relationships generally require some level of adroitness. Keep these tips in mind: Call attention to other people's mistakes indirectly. Talk about your own mistakes first.    Humble yourself and praise the other. No one likes to take orders. Ask questions relating to what you want. Let the other person save face rather than find fault. French aviation pioneer, Antoine de Saint- Exupery wrote: "I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man's dignity is a crime."        HOW TO SPUR PEOPLE ON TO SUCCESS You encourage people to be their best selves when you praise even the slightest improvement.      This is not about excess flattery. It is simply capitalizing on the inherent need in every human to feel appreciated.      Psychologist Jess Lair said, "Praise is like sunshine to the warm human spirit. We cannot flo